A little background

I need a place to spew so here I am. I wish I was witty, like so many other bloggers, but I'm not and I won't pretend to be.

A little background, I have a 3 year old who for I will call Little Bit for now and a 10 month old who I will call Baby Bit for now. I hope to come up with names that can grow with them. Little Bit was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder almost a year ago. A few months later, he entered an Autism classroom at a preschool. They graduated him to the big and bad public school on his 3rd birthday. His growth was amazing in the short 5 months that he was in the first school. Unfortunately, we have seen nothing but regression in the 4 months that he has been in the public school. Everybody but the public school acknowledges that we have a problem that needs to be dealt with, but nobody has an advice on what to do. I'm pulling my hair out here!

I've requested to observe his class for an entire day, since they say that don't see any of these problems at school, but I'm being told that I can only stay for 30 minutes. I'm working my way up the chain of command, but I'm not holding my breath. What to do next?

Baby Bit is doing well, but we are watching him closely for signs of Autism. We plan on having him evaluated at around 1 1/2. He has good eye contact, responds to his name, and waves, all good signs. He isn't taking to solid foods which makes us wonder about sensory issues. We wish he had more consonant sounds and we would like to see more reciprocal interactions. We feel pretty good so far, but we certainly don't think we are in the clear.